I have a bit of a fetish. I'm a Daddy's girl. It is the only role where I have a strong desire to be submissive to my dominant Daddy. To be clear off the bat - this in no way represents any incestuous leanings. I have a father and am not looking for another one.
I am entirely adult and don't dress like a 5 year old. However, I do enjoy the release from accessing my simpler emotions in a young way. I pout, stick my tongue out and sometimes my mouth gets me into trouble.
I think my views are best summed up in a posting I found online a few years ago: ( from http://www.subspace.cc/daddy.html )
Daddy/little girl does not refer to the ages, real or pretend, of the participants. Nor does it imply closet desires. In my relationship my Dom is not my father, he is nothing like my father, and I have no need for him to replace my father. He is however my Daddy. We do not engage in age play specifically ( beyond the occasional school girl fantasy *s*) and our relationship is not based on any need to have sex with children. I am always all woman, and always a very independent woman.
He does have the ability to make me feel like a little girl, however, a very cherished and sometimes needy little girl. It is a feeling that I revel in, it is the safest place I have ever been, and it allows me the freedom to be all that I am without fear of reprisals. Daddy Dom is a feeling, an environment that two people have created. A Daddy Dom is so named because of the qualities he possesses and the service he provides.
So, what are these qualities? What is a Daddy Dom?
A Daddy Dom wants to be the center of your universe. He wants to be able to provide for your every need and care. But more than that he wants to be able to shape and mold you to the image he thinks you should become. He sees in you someone who can achieve a much higher, much greater status. He believes more in you than you believe in yourself. What he wants in return is to be able to bask in his image of you, the image he has created. To achieve these goals he relies on a combination of love, respect, and discipline.
His love for his little girl goes without saying. He loves her as much for who she is as for who she will become with his guidance. She is his prized possession. His eyes light up when she walks into the room and he takes great pride in her successes. After all, he helped to create her. She holds the most tender part of his heart and has the greatest power to hurt him.
This love would not be possible without respect. A Daddy Dom needs to feel pride in his little girl. He needs to know she can hold her own in the outside world and still submit to him. He holds the greatest respect for the gift she has given him and takes great pains to increase it’s value. It is extremely important to him to know she can be with any man and she chooses to be with him.
He knows that this makes discipline a priority in their lives, more important than in some other D/s relationships. In order for the little girl to really trust, she must know he means what he says. If his little girl is going to be the best she can possibly be he must stand firm. He uses his experience in life and his knowledge of her to provide proper direction and punishment when the need arises.
If he does not enforce discipline, this respect becomes a tenuous thing. If his submissive finds that she can manipulate him out of punishing her, she begins to lose respect and the ability to empower becomes impeded. He understands that it becomes increasingly difficult to be possessed by someone you do not respect.
This takes great strength on his part. It takes strength to control her, and to shape her to his needs and desires. It takes strength to be her confidant, her shoulder, her anchor. It takes strength to let her out into the world when all he wants to do is hold her safe in his arms. And it takes strength to do what is necessary when she needs to be disciplined.
A Daddy Dom provides something else that is very important to his submissive...acceptance. She is safe in his arms because he knows her, everything about her, and he still loves her. When she goes to him she knows that this man knows all of her dirty little secrets and it doesn’t matter. To him she is beautiful.
Daddy Dom and sadistic Dom are by no means mutually exclusive. Many Daddy Doms embrace their sadism while understanding and feeding their submissive's masochism. This balance is necessary to many little girls because it allows all parts of her to be nourished, leading to an incredibly fulfilling relationship.
I think most Dominants have a bit of the Daddy in them, taking on the role of male authority figure in the submissive’s life and using their power to enrich that life. Daddy/little girl verbalizes that feeling, and adds a dimension of warmth, caring, and ritual that it’s participants crave.
There is something infinitely magical about a Daddy Dom. Perhaps it is something only a little girl can understand.
This article remains my personal yardstick. THIS is what I crave.
How did it all start?
At 40 years of age ( I am now 43), my libido kicked into high gear. After years of minimal sexual involvement I developed an 'itch'. A friend of mine recommended I try internet 'dating'. Somewhat reluctantly I began my quest.
Previously, my sex life had been somewhat vanilla and included relationships with both men and women. I found my desires changing to want something 'more'. I am very open in discussing sexuality and quite enjoyed a lot of my on-line 'hot' talks (which often proved to be better than in person encounters and was much safer on many levels for me)
I began regular conversation with someone I knew I would never be involved with. I knew we weren't compatible in so many arenas but boy were we good at hot talk! In the midst of one of our conversations, I was being a bit of a cheeky brat (something that comes very naturally to me--never disrespectfully, and all in good fun). His response to me was , "Careful! Daddy will spank!"
Those few words changed my sexuality in a way nothing else has and it continues to this day.
Immediately after he typed those words I had what felt like a body orgasm. It was taken aback by my body's response. Immediately after I had so many mixed emotions - like "EWWWW. Is this weird? Is it wrong? Why is this so exciting?"
Defining the concept of 'Daddy' plays a big part in my acceptance of this dynamic.
It began a process of exploration which led me to investigating the BDSM community, particularly on Alt.com where I found many 'Daddies' and I learned a lot. Sadly there were none nearby that interested me, but I haven't given up. I also searched the web tirelessly and was disheartened by how little there was on my topic of interest. I did however discover the above article by Kendra ( thank-you!!!!) and am comforted to know I am not alone in my desires.
I think that's enough for now, as it's my first entry and I'm VERY new to this blog stuff. (but loving it so far). Next topic....the challenges I have faced so far in finding a Daddy.
2 comments:
This is very interesting. I understand your recoil when discovering the eroticism of being someone's little girl. I struggle at times with my own acceptance of a somewhat unorthodox sexual outlook in terms of societal norms. What I wanted to contribute though, was that at one point I was having sex with my partner and all of a sudden, out of nowhere, I said, "Fuck me, Daddy." When the words flew out of my mouth I was baffled, and almost choked out a laugh, however I found it very arousing as did my partner. Sometimes we must forget about the judgments others might make and pursue what brings us the most pleasure. The more unique the better, I say. I very much hope you find someone in your area who could satisfy such needs!
I'm really glad to have found your blog and I look forward to reading more...this is a subject close to my own heart and experience.
Best wishes,
Olivia
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